Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Barriers – Did we create them?

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Facing roadblocks in one's career path have led many to experience self-doubt, depression, anxiety, and fear.Over the past few weeks, I had the privilege of speaking with women who are desiring a career change due to being unfilled in their current career path. During one of my many conversations, someone asked how to move from being unfilled to having a purposeful career and life. After the unnamed women utter the age old question many ponder daily. Silence consumed the group as the women turned to face the inquisitor. Then one boldly yelled, "I WISHED I KNEW". While the others began shaking their heads admitting unapologetically they wrestled with the same questions. After an hour of spending time together, the women vowed before leaving the conversation they will set their mind to focus on a new path of self-discovery to pursue a more meaningful career path and life.

Recently, I had a profound revelation which helped me to connect to my life’s work. For years, I tried to take many roads I thought would connect me to my career path, but found myself back at square one. Since my early twenties, God has used me to help many people with their careers, counseling, and business needs. However, I never wanted what he was showing me during that time. I was focused on what I thought would be a more suitable career path, I ignored my purpose. Chasing a career that would not chase me, I became frustrated and unfilled. Limited by seeking my plan I encountered doors God would not open. On many occasions, I would cry out LORD WHY! He would bring me back to the beginning of the road by sending more people with counseling inquiries. Finally, realizing this was a sign. I yielded to his plan. 

If you try walking through a door that will not open ask yourself these questions - Is it the season? Is it God? Is it my desire?  When you are ready to receive God's answer to the billion-dollar question you will find joy.

Until next time….

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Turning around...

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Things will work out for you just give it time for it to line up. Don't be discouraged about what has happened in your past just believe it will get better and you will see the fruit of your belief.  As women, we may feel at times we are the only person going through a particular situation, but we know deep down inside it's not true. There is someone in the world who can identify or relate to your situation.  Life deals us scenarios that force us to confront a variety of emotions that consist of anxiety, depression, sadness,  weakness, pain, and fear. Through it all, women are phenomenal in that we still continue to move forward in our brilliance. I encourage you once again to continue to believe regardless of what is going on around you and in your life. If you are suffering silently inside seek help and support from a mental health professional, doctor, friend, parent, or clergy. 

Mental health is wellness for your soul.

Friday, July 22, 2016

The Desire To Be.....

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There comes a time in every person’s life when the desire to be greater than where you are, take you by surprise.  It is in these moments we should take the time to find out the root of our desire. Here are some questions to ask yourself to distinguish if your desire is coming from a healthy place.

Do I want more because God wants more for me?
Do I want this because some else wants this for me?
Do I desire to be greater because I want someone to see me as great?
Do I want something someone else has because I feel less than?

Always check your motives when a desire hits your hurt. Take a moment to reflect and focus on where you are and where you’re going. There is nothing wrong with your desire to be in a better place as long your motives are right. Write down what’s valuable to you and center your goals on your values.

For example, I value a healthy relationship with Christ. Therefore, my goals are going to be centered on what he has for me. This was not always the case. I used to make goals based on where I should be by a certain age, but everything came to a halt when I allowed God to change my plans. My desire at that time was centered on being seen as great because I felt less than.  Faced with these feelings I would try to control everything in my atmosphere.  Disillusioned to the fact I could not control anything or anyone, but myself. Failing helped me faced my reality.

 Our desire to be greater in him is the best desire we can hope for or dream of. God will always take us to great places if we allow him. If you are not where you would like to be; check your motives and realign your focus. Whatever you give the most attention to is the thing or person that is driving you. Remember nothing or no one can take us higher than God.

If you need help learning how to realign your focus I recommend reading The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson. It continues to be a blessing to my life. I read it 5 times and passed it forward to bless others. Every time I read this book I learned something new about my journey.


Thursday, June 23, 2016

Self Love..You are fearfully wonderful

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The ability to love oneself and one another is a gift.  When was the last time you took a moment out of your day to sow a word of encouragement into your spirit or another woman struggling with the belief she is beautiful and capable of being all that God has her to be? There are times as women we are too hard on ourselves and one another because we dislike ourselves. I encourage everyone led to read this post to begin to spend more time with God to find out how beautiful and capable he created you to be.  Just imagine if we took the time out to sow words of encouragement in our lives and the lives of others how much better we would feel and make others feel. A few years ago, I struggled with believing I was beautiful and capable of being all that God has for me to be, but now all that has changed because God sent women into my life to sow words of encouragement.  We all need to be encouraged at some point in our lives because as women we bare and deal with so much.  It is extremely important we begin to know who we are and whose we are. 

I encourage you to purchase a journal if you don't already have one and begin to write about your struggles.  Then research the bible  for God's word to see how he sees you. This will encourage your spirit because you will begin to see how great you are. Spending time alone is some of the best moments I enjoy because I get to build my relationship with God and myself.  In all your flaws know you are beautiful and capable of being all that you are called to be.

Psalm 139:14 (NASB)
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are your works, and my soul knows it very well.